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Saturday, 23 September 2017

EMBRACING THE NEW NORMAL






Chronic illness changes far more than our bodies.. it changes our sleeping patterns, our intimacy, our family life, our home and our mental state as social occasions dwindle. It can makes us feel helpless.  But there is something we can do to help us wring out as much enjoyment as possible from our life. However horrid, this new life is our new normal... so we must live it, not merely exist, because this life is the only life we are going to have. 

The only way we can move forward is to accept that we are ill, and that our life will change. Only through acceptance will we learn to find joy in the every day and to be victorious. In spite of our illness. In spite of our pain. It takes courage. Lean on Christ and enjoy the good in life now.. as is. 

Not as we want it to be. It is the only life we have! It is a horrible thing to have to do...but ultimately if we want to have any enjoyment of our life, we have to face it and accept the new normal... it doesn't mean we will ever be happy with our lot, but we will be happier if we accept it... our old life is gone- the life we have now is the only life we have...

I have had to accept that Chris pushes me in my walker around the shops: it was humiliating at first, but if we want to shop together, I have had to accept that I can't walk far anymore... We have been looking to buy a wheelchair for me... something I have resisted, but now I see that my life can continue pretty much the same if I am sitting in a wheelchair...

Yes, I hate it- I really do. It is humiliating, humbling, and embarrassing- but if I want to live my life as I like, I have had to accept it. Like with the walker at first, I think I will become more used to it. The first step is for me to accept that my new normal is different.. and then I have to embrace it!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


So teach [us] to number our days, that we may apply [our] hearts unto wisdom.  Psalm 90:12

Tuesday, 19 September 2017

FEELING THANKFUL



Today I am thanking the LORD for His servants who graciously care for those of us who are ill or disabled. Often carers are ill themselves, they push themselves beyond their comfort zone and limits, to help us. Our lives would be so much the worse for not having them in it. They are special people, for there are not that many in this sad world today who would sacrifice their time and energy for us.. 

There are many forms of care for us from bedside ministrations to chauffeuring us to endless hospital or doctors appointments, contending with walkers and wheelchairs, shopping and cleaning for us and administering not only medicines but providing food and drinks for us... In my life, I have found that I am both the recipient of care and the care giver. I count on Chris for his care of me when I am ill, and he likewise counts on me to be care giver when he is unwell... and I do thank God for him... 

We are in a unique position to show forth Jesus's example of servant hood in how we care for others... we can't afford not to... if we want to be Christ-like. It is not an easy path to need to be cared for or a carer, but it is a ministry and an exercise in compassion and patience, and humility... 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks 

Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. 3 John 1:2

Monday, 18 September 2017

WARTS AND ALL



The scriptures tell us to run to God with everything. And yet a lot of Christians won't do that because they are afraid of Him. So they live their life in a pseudo trust relationship with Him, walking in a timid way with Him that is not awe of His holiness or even reverence, but straight out fear.. I don't believe God wants us to be afraid of Him.

People often forget that God knows our hearts and they put on this holy fake mask as they come before Him.  Or else they spit the dummy and run from Him, scared of His reaction... 

I often think of King David telling God about his woes and how he felt. I believe God wants us to have an authentic relationship with Him. He loves us warts and all. I think the worst thing we can do is run from Him, playing no speaks.... when what we really need is to cling to Him and receive His comfort. 

A lot of Christians are afraid to be real with God, and if they are, they think they have overstepped a line and are afraid of retribution. It's comforting to know that even our tantrums and silent treatments are forgivable. We sick women have enough to feel guilty about, without being afraid of coming back to God after a hissy fit.... He is a Father after all, and most parents experience at least one tantrum in their child's life..


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18

Saturday, 16 September 2017

EMOTIONS ARE FICKLE



I think most of us feel that God doesn't care about us,  when we suffer with constant pain and certainly insomnia plays a part in our emotional health. Emotions of course effect how we feel spiritually, and it is always comforting to me to recognise that they can't be trusted to be a reliable measure of our spiritual health. We can feel like God is far from us, or that He doesn't care about our suffering, but in the final analysis, we do still believe- we are just having a hard time... 

Our salvation and our faith is not built on emotions but decisions. We decide we believe in Jesus and His sacrifice and we accept His free gift. We may feel like we are alone in our journey, but our feelings are not fact. God never leaves us, nor does He take our sufferings lightly- and He does understand when we feel abandoned by Him. 

The trick is to know the Truth and come back to that during hard times. And the only way to know the Truth is to know the Word, store it in your heart and rely on it during the times of doubt that our illnesses often produce. We need to cling to Jesus, not run from Him. You are loved by Him so don't let your fickle emotions dictate your life... 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

"For I the LORD thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee. " Isaiah 41:13

KNOW JESUS, KNOW PEACE!



When I was at  Bible College, we learned about other religions and one thing stood out to me about Christianity: man's deepest fears and anxieties were addressed and defeated by Jesus. No other faith could alleviate our biggest fears like Christianity does.

What are man's biggest fears?

Death. Jesus died in our place, and conquered death and the grave by His resurrection.

Sin. Jesus gave His Blood as atonement for our sin and by His example lived a sinless life. To help us not sin, He gave us the Helper, the Holy Spirit.

Forgiveness. By taking our place as the Atoning Sinless offering on the cross, Jesus paved the way for us to be forgiven by God.

Clean start. God cleanses us from all wrong doing as soon as we repent of it. He wipes the slate clean and although we may have consequences of that sin to face, He remembers it no more. We are clean in His sight.

Healing. Jesus took our illness, and He does heal today. But sometimes our healing will come when we get to Heaven. But He helps us bear our illnesses in grace.

Peace. Knowing God brings us a peace that passes all understanding. It gives us a solid anchor in which to bring our ship into safe harbour in times of trouble. His peace brings joy in hardship and trial..

No other religion or faith guarantees us a personal relationship as co-heirs of the Kingdom of God and adopted sons and daughters of God. And no other addresses the major fears of mankind like Jesus does. To know Jesus is to know peace.

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© Glenys Robyn Hicks

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

Monday, 11 September 2017

TICKLING EARS




I know that preachers of the Word are only people and no one is perfect. But as preachers, more is expected of them and they should stick to scripture. The Word is to be handled for what it is- God's revealed will for us and is inspired of the Holy Spirit.

Some people look at the large following some have or how successful they are, but I don't care about how wealthy they are or not or how many followers they have,  that doesn't particularly bother me. But tinkering with the Word bothers me a lot. 

I won't listen to preachers who I find do not line up with the Word. They can tickle other's ears, but not mine.... and how they preach the Word is serious business that has eternal value...they will be answerable to God and and more is expected of teachers than students... just my thoughts on judging teachers of the Word. 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

For the times is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions. 2 Timothy 4:3

Friday, 8 September 2017

NOT UNLESS YOU'RE UNDER FIVE!



During late night shopping it is not unusual to see young children clad in pyjamas being taken round the shops with their parents. This is not a problem for me. But what is a problem for me is seeing the parents shopping in theirs Shopping in ones' night attire is becoming more popular, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. Unless you are sharing a hospital room with me or are under 5 years old, I really don't want to see you in it. Especially in the shopping centre or petrol station. 

I know a lot of people say, "well it's only clothes!" but it's night clothes and like underwear, it is personal. I don't like seeing a vast display of bra straps, underpants, or thongs. I really don't want to be privy to what you wear under your clothes or to bed. Also, I don't want my grandchildren or your children seeing this because it exudes intimacy and goes over the boundaries of good taste and modesty.  Seeing these things leaves little to the imagination and is too much information!  

Tesco, a supermarket in England, have banned shopping in pyjamas. I heartily agree. Anyone can take 5 minutes to pull a sweater over their head and to pull up a pair of jeans or a skirt. Even I, as a chronically ill woman, have never gone out shopping in my pyjamas. I do admit to running into the milk bar for some bread in my slippers. But I wouldn't feel comfortable shopping in my pyjamas. Or even going to the letterbox in them.  

Why don't I want to be seen out in my pyjamas? you ask. It just isn't seemly for a woman of my age to do so. It goes in line with Titus 2 which admonishes us women to be chaste and pure. If I parade in my pyjamas in public, I feel that I would be dishonouring the LORD. I don't want to harm my witness. I feel that publicly dressing down like this would harm it. Being modestly dressed will avoid being ashamed.  

To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:5   Behold, I come as a thief. Blessed [is] he that watcheth, and keepeth his garments, lest he walk naked, and they see his shame. Revelation 16:15   I want to please the LORD in all I do, including how I dress. Man looks on the outside. God may know my heart, but man only has my appearance to go by. If I draw unflattering comments by appearing in pyjamas in the supermarket or wherever, I am hardly going to influence anyone to come to Christ.   But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for [the LORD seeth] not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 

In all things we are called to propriety, order and decency. Wearing our night attire publicly displays none of these virtues.  

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

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